Like Hemant, I have received an email from a nonreligious Lebanon High School graduate (not the same one!)—one whose graduation ceremony was marred by the prayers of Principal Lowery. It details a history of religious inculcation in that school that goes far beyond the prayer uttered at graduation. For obvious reasons, I have kept the student’s sex and identity confidential.
Dear Professor Coyne,
I was a graduating student at the Lebanon High School 2014 commencement ceremony in Lebanon, Missouri. I have been a Lebanon student my whole life.
I grew up in a secular home where I was neither encouraged nor discouraged in participation of religious activities. This immediately separated me from most of my peers who would often talk about or discuss church. I never thought much about it until I started attending Lebanon High School.
The school was definitely primarily religious. With clubs such as Fellowship of Christian Athletes and Bible Club, I simply got used to religion being a driving force at the school. I never attempted to impede on the rights of others to get together and pray, often personally opting out of prayer circles in preparation for tests before classes. Prayers were also held before sports events, talent shows, assemblies, and other school events that I also did not participate in. These things didn’t bother me too much, as it was student led.
What bothers me is the school’s [tendency] to dissolve other groups that promote tolerance of differences. My sister, a graduate of Lebanon High School, helped found the Youth for Tolerance club. This club was met with great controversy, but was a safe place for non-Christians and LGBT youth to convene and promote tolerance. This club never received a teacher sponsor, with teachers admitting to be afraid to lose their job in just hosting the club. When I became an LHS student, this club was no longer in existence.
My absence in these prayers was noted. Christian students often dismissed my opinions in class discussions about whether non-Christian sources were credible. Political discussions in Social Studies classes were quite one-sided. In response to my stances, people would frequently say to me, “I’ll pray for you,” knowing that I was non-religious. To put the cherry on top, my yearbook is full of messages encouraging me to find god for my mortal soul.
What Mr. Lowery did at the 2014 graduation ceremony is hardly the first time that he danced around the Separation of Church and State for prayer. At the previous graduation ceremony, he said that he is not allowed to say a prayer, but if he could say a prayer, this is what he would say. He added that he would encourage everyone to bow their heads. And if this was not ambiguous enough, he added an “amen” to conclude his statements.
I was surprised. I tried to discuss this with like-minded classmates who informed me that he often prayed before school sponsored sports events. This was of course allowed due to the majority of Lebanon being religious—a population around 15,000 and a church on every corner.
But he is a school official. His actions as principal seem to represent that of a Christian private school. Lebanon High School is not a private school. The students felt safe to bully me and my non-Christian peers, as they were the majority. And the principal seemed inclined to protect them.
At my graduation, I was prepared for him to say a prayer. I did not expect a speech about America essentially being a Christian nation. It was arrogant, aggressive. I felt shamed for being a non-believer. It was not a simple prayer. It was an outcry of how he didn’t care about the minority. I had already felt as though he had a personal distaste for me as he knew I was not religious. His actions at the graduation were a slap in the face.
Let it be known that I am hardly a bad student. I graduated as an honor student, received generous scholarships for college, and participated in a plethora of extra-curricular activities. I attended classes, made good grades, and treated my classmates with respect. As I was seated in my cap and gown, I was happy to be celebrating this accomplishment with the peers I had grown up with. At that point, we were one. We were united as the LHS Class of 2014. We were the Lebanon High School Yellow Jackets.
What Lowery did, however, stole that from me. It was no longer about my education. It was about religion. So as my peers around me clapped and cheered for his prayer, I realized. This is not for me. I am not welcome here. I have never been. Lowery is not proud of me or for my various accomplishments, no matter what my class ranking was. I was not a Lebanon Yellow Jacket. I was an unwelcome non-Christian. Before Principal Lowery’s speech, I felt welcome. I felt safe. But after the cheers, the hollers… I was anxious. I wanted to leave. I will only have one high school graduation, and I will forever remember that feeling.
The public outcry from this is disappointingly not surprising. I was aware that even though logic would state that this was unconstitutional, people would support him anyways. They do not care about the minority, because they are the majority. They protect each other, and collectively shame me. No one cares if I leave the community or not, because my opinions are not welcome. And Lowery further illustrates that they never will be.
Several teachers have voiced their displeasure with Lowery’s statements, but have admitted to being afraid for their jobs to do anything that was anti-Christian. Even Christian teachers are upset by his comments. Though take one tour through the Lebanon town Facebook pages, and you’ll see why.
I lived 18 years of my life surrounded by hateful people. Principal Lowery’s speech endorsed it all. He is no better than my school peers who bullied me for my non-belief. I sincerely hope that he reads this and reflects on his actions.
Thank you for your attention to this issue. Those of us within the community are too afraid to have a voice, as you have unfortunately learned. But there are those of us who find comfort in knowing that others have empathy for our situations.
This letter almost makes me weep. People of Lebanon: do you see what religious prosyletizing does to people who don’t share your beliefs? Does that not bother you one bit? If it doesn’t, then even if you call yourself a Christian, you aren’t.
There are more letters to come from offended students, I think. I wish Principal Lowery would read them.