The Catholic Church abuse scandal in Pennsylvania: the power of religion

August 31, 2018 • 1:45 pm

Grania sent me three items relevant to the ongoing scandal about sex abuse by the Catholic Church in Pennsylvania.  #MeToo highlighted how power imbalances led to sexual abuse of many women, and this scandal shows the same thing with respect to the power of the Church. In fact, I can barely think of a religion (perhaps Quakers?) in which religious power has not led to rape and sexual abuse—mistreatment that wouldn’t have occurred in the absence of the cloak of sanctity covering church officials.

The Grand Jury’s report on the abuse is here, but if you don’t want to wade through the 1,356 pages, both Andrew Seidel, an attorney for the Freedom from Religion Foundation (FFRF), and Hemant Mehta, boss of The Friendly Atheist website, have done it for you. And both have summarized the results, with Hemant giving some of the more horrible details. (You need to read about those so you’ll realize how deep, disgusting, and traumatic to children this behavior was.) Here are the two pieces and an excerpt from each. (Click on screenshots to go to the articles.)

First, from the Freethought Now! website of the FFRF on Patheos:

Religion is the problem.

There are many gut-wrenching, heartbreaking details in the report — for an abbreviated catalog of horrors, see The Friendly Atheist’s article — but the consistent theme underlying the analysis is authority. Unquestionable, unassailable authority. Divine authority. In my opinion, that is the biggest contributor to the depth, breadth and severity of this menace.

If the Catholic Church were a chain of private schools or a secular, multinational corporation, it could never get away with raping children on an industrial scale and covering it up. The difference is that these young victims are taught by everyone in their orbit that their tormentors are divine. They are the representatives of god on earth. They are not to be questioned and certainly not to be disobeyed. In fact, to disobey your tormentor is to disobey god. Under Catholic Canon law, adherents are required to give a “religious submission of the intellect and will” to their church.

The entire power structure of the Catholic Church is predicated on complete obedience to “men of God.” The abuse is so bad in the church because it is a church. As one victim put it, the priests “are much above anybody else in your family or they are God in the flesh.”

The evil is boundless because of the power of religion.

And from the Friendly Atheist, whose examples will turn your stomach:

When you read this report and realize it’s just one group of priests in one state, you have to wonder what the stories would look like if a similar document was produced across the country, if not the world.

. . .So brace yourself.

Here’s a running list of some of the more egregious things you’ll find in the report.

(JAC: I’ve just given a couple; Hemant gives more).

  • Father Chester Gawronski fondled and masturbated at least 12 different children by saying he was just showing them “how to check for cancer.” (When one of these stories went public in 2002, Bishop Donald Trautman chastised the victim by arguing that he was only 14 when it happened, not 11 like the article said.)
  • Father Thomas D. Skotek raped an underage girl, got her pregnant, then paid for her abortion. His Bishop later said, “This is a very difficult time in your life, and I realize how upset you are. I too share your grief.” That letter was addressed to Skotek, not his victim.
  • Father George Zirwas was part of a predatory priest “ring” that “shared intelligence” on victims and exchanged them with each other. They “manufactured child pornography” on church property, using “whips, violence and sadism in raping their victims.”
  • Reverend Gerald Royer once molested a 12-year-old boy. The boy’s friend didn’t believe it… until, hidden in a closet, he witnessed the abuse himself. The victim, now 83, fought in wars, yet because of what Royer did, he could never hug or kiss his own children, who were boys. He can’t shake hands with men to this day. He can’t even see male doctors or dentists.
  • Father Gregory Flohr took a victim into the confessional and tied him up with rope. When the victim screamed, Flohr shut him up by shoving his penis in the victim’s mouth. When the victim wouldn’t accept it, Flohr sodomized him with a crucifix and called him a “bad boy.”
  • Reverend James Beeman raped a seven-year-old in the hospital just after she had “had her tonsils removed.” He raped her again when she was 19 and pregnant.

I’ll spare you the rest. Hemant details the way the Church deflected or avoided blame, and, at the end, summarizes the Grand Jury’s recommendations (not shown here). Here’s the Church’s strategy:

The grand jury also noted how the Church managed to cover all these crimes up as long as they did. Leaders, they said, followed a “playbook for concealing the truth” that consisted of seven steps:

  1. Use euphemisms. (“Never say “rape”; say “inappropriate contact” or “boundary issues.”)
  2. Don’t investigate with trained personnel. (Instead, let clergy members ask the victims “inadequate” questions before judging their own colleagues.)
  3. Evaluate priests at church-run “treatment centers.”
  4. Never say why a priest was removed. (Just say he’s on “sick leave” or something.)
  5. Keep providing priests with living expenses regardless of the allegations.
  6. Transfer the priests if his crime becomes public knowledge. (Send him to a place where “no one will know he is a child abuser.”)
  7. Don’t tell the police. (Keep it “in house.”)

I really don’t know how, after these revelations, which extend to high levels in the Church, one can remain a Catholic—a member of this organization.

Finally, here’s a video by The Thinking Atheist on the mess, which includes a long interview with Andrew Seidel.

What’s wrong with identity politics?

August 31, 2018 • 10:15 am

This interview from the Chronicle of Higher Education is certainly worth reading. The content: Evan Goldstein interviews Francis Fukuyama, political scientist and writer whose achievements are summarized this way in Wikipedia (note: in the Chronicle interview Fukuyama is definitely not a neo-conservative, going hard after “President Trump”):

Fukuyama is known for his book The End of History and the Last Man (1992), which argued that the worldwide spread of liberal democracies and free market capitalism of the West and its lifestyle may signal the end point of humanity’s sociocultural evolution and become the final form of human government. However, his subsequent book Trust: Social Virtues and Creation of Prosperity (1995) modified his earlier position to acknowledge that culture cannot be cleanly separated from economics. Fukuyama is also associated with the rise of the neoconservative movement, from which he has since distanced himself.

Fukuyama has a new book coming out September 11 whose subject is identity politics (click on screenshot just below to go to its Amazon site). The Amazon summary includes the following:

The New York Times bestselling author of The Origins of Political Order offers a provocative examination of modern identity politics: its origins, its effects, and what it means for domestic and international affairs of state

. . . Demand for recognition of one’s identity is a master concept that unifies much of what is going on in world politics today. The universal recognition on which liberal democracy is based has been increasingly challenged by narrower forms of recognition based on nation, religion, sect, race, ethnicity, or gender, which have resulted in anti-immigrant populism, the upsurge of politicized Islam, the fractious “identity liberalism” of college campuses, and the emergence of white nationalism. Populist nationalism, said to be rooted in economic motivation, actually springs from the demand for recognition and therefore cannot simply be satisfied by economic means. The demand for identity cannot be transcended; we must begin to shape identity in a way that supports rather than undermines democracy.

The last bit, about how to usefully weave the need for recognizing people’s identity into the fabric of a functioning democracy, is especially intriguing, because although identity politics permeates both the American Right and Left, it’s hardly led to any progress.

I often think about this, and engage in self-examination about why modern identity politics irks me. After all, the call for group rights has historically identified and rectified great injustices, bringing about things like women’s rights, civil rights, and gay rights. I’d like to think I’m sympathetic to genuine oppression and would try to identify it and call it out; and believe me, there’s plenty of oppression and bigotry still around!

So what bothers me about the increasing balkanization of the electorate? I suppose I see much of it as “me-centered”: a narrative about personal victimhood that can not only overcome a drive for social progress, but also leads to suppression of speech and to the demonization of one’s opponents. A lot of identity politics is excessive—the blather about “cultural appropriation” is a notable example—and it’s created a hierarchy of victimhood that leads not to progress but to finger-pointing. (Seriously, does boycotting a show of kimonos in which viewers are invited to try on the garment accomplish anything?) Too, identity politics sometimes degenerates into unproductive Pecksniffery: does it really push America forward, for instance, to censor books like To Kill a Mockingbird? Is it productive to decry all police as racist, even when the cops are black? And I worry, as I often do here, that the excesses of Leftist identity politics give the Right an excuse to not just mock progressives, but to buttress support for autocratic buffoons like Trump and his Republican minions.

Thus I’m ambivalent about the constant cries of oppression. Some of them are justified, but it’s often hard to weed out genuine wrongs from groups using an oppression narrative for other purposes. This has become harder since certain groups on the Left have tried to silence any criticism, much less discussion, by calling critics “racists”, “Nazis,” and so on. Since liberals are deathly afraid of such labels, they’ve driven some of us straight into the arms of regressives. In this sense the Left has borrowed from the playbook of Islamists, who have learned well the use of bandying about the term “Islamophobia.” None of us want to be Islamophobes, so we avoid criticizing the faith and the actions it provokes. The result: liberals and feminists wind up coddling one of the world’s most regressive and oppressive religions, embracing a double standard based on the bigotry of low expectations.

You can see Fukuyama’s own ambivalence in the article below, which I highly recommend. I’ll put a few excerpts below the title.

Fukuyama on Trump:

Q. Let’s start where you start Identity: Donald Trump. The book is a response to his election. He also made an appearance in The End of History and the Last Man.

A. One of the arguments I made in The End of History was that it’s good to have a democracy linked to a market economy because it acts as a sponge for the ambitious energies of people who could otherwise become Julius Caesar or Adolf Hitler. That’s the context in which I mention Donald Trump. Our political system has to absorb such people and render them safe. At that time, it looked like our system was doing that. He could be a real-estate developer or, later, an entertainer. That wasn’t enough for him, and he went into politics. Now we’ve got a real problem. Our constitutional system was designed to prevent the rise of fantastically ambitious individuals, to limit them through a system of checks and balances. That’s the test we’re up against right now.

Fukuyama’s ambivalence:

Q. Is there anything inherently problematic about minority groups’ demanding recognition?

A. Absolutely not. Every single one of these struggles is justified. The problem is in the way we interpret injustice and how we try to solve it, which tends to fragment society. In the 20th century, for example, the left was based around the working class and economic exploitation rather than the exploitation of specific identity groups. That has a lot of implications for possible solutions to injustice. For example, one of the problems of making poverty a characteristic of a specific group is that it weakens support for the welfare state. Take something like Obamacare, which I think was an important policy. A lot of its opponents interpreted it as a race-specific policy: This was the black president doing something for his black constituents. We need to get back to a narrative that’s focused less on narrow groups and more on larger collectivities, particularly the collectivity called the American people.

The role of college campuses:

Q. To what extent is this fragmentation in our politics exacerbated by certain tendencies on campus?

A. This is a complicated question because specific incidents are picked up by conservative media and blown up to be representative of higher education. Friends of mine say: It’s obvious there is no freedom of speech left in universities. That seems excessive. The question is important, however. What happens in universities sets the tone for a lot of other elite institutions. What happens on campus ultimately does filter down to the rest of society.

The last sentence, with which I agree (just look at The New Yorker and the New York Times these days), explains why I devote so much space on this site to campuses. And I’ll continue to do so despite some folks telling me in no uncertain terms that I should stop writing about college politics and concentrate on the nastiness of the Trump Administration. (My response is that everybody’s going after Trump, but criticism of college politics has been largely the domain of the Right.)

The interview continues:

Q. You tie some campus developments to a therapeutic turn in American life.

A. It began to unfold back in the ’60s and ’70s, when identity came to the forefront. People felt unfulfilled. They felt they had these true selves that weren’t being recognized. In the absence of a common cultural framework previously set by religion, people were at a loss. Psychology and psychiatry stepped into that breach. In the medical profession, treating mental health has a therapeutic mission, and it became legitimate to say the objective of society ought to be improving people’s sense of self-esteem.

This became part of the mission of universities, which made it difficult to set educational criteria as opposed to therapeutic criteria aimed at making students feel good about themselves. This is what led to many of the conflicts over multiculturalism. This played out in a vivid way at Stanford.

Q. In the book, you quote a leader of Stanford’s Black Student Union in the late ’80s arguing that the university’s Western-civ curriculum “hurts people mentally and emotionally in ways that are not even recognized.”

A. Instead of saying we want to read authors that are outside the canon because they’re important educationally and historically and culturally, the way it’s framed by that student leader is that the exclusion of those authors hurts people’s self-esteem: Because my people are not equally represented, I feel less good about myself. That is part of the motive that drives administrators and professors to expand the curriculum, to fulfill an understandably therapeutic mission. But I think it can get in the way of universities’ fulfilling their educational missions. What makes students feel good about themselves is not necessarily what’s most useful to their education.

Pay attention to that last sentence, which carries a lot of wisdom about the mission of universities.

Q. A majority of Republicans and right-leaning independents now think higher education has a negative effect on the country. Is higher ed to blame for this perception problem?

“We’re a university, we’re dedicated to the free debate of ideas, so that’s what we’re going to do.”

A. When faced with the sort of threats to free speech that trigger conservative reactions, a lot of professors and administrators tend not to be outspoken. And they ought to be. I admire the president of the University of Chicago [Robert Zimmer], who has been out front on these issues. We need more presidents like him. They should say they’re not going along with any of this nonsense. We’re a university, we’re dedicated to the free debate of ideas, so that’s what we’re going to do.

On social media:

Q. What about the role of social media?

A. Social media is perfectly made for identity politics. It allows you to close yourself off in an identity group, get affirmation of everything you say, and not have to argue with people who think differently. It’s hard to tell what’s cause and effect. I used to think that the driver was society itself, and that technology only accelerated it. But I’m beginning to think causality moves the other way: that we wouldn’t be where we are if not for the internet and social media. This is something future historians will have to unpack.

Amen. All of the interview makes me want to read Fukuyama’s book, and I will.

 

More words I abhor

August 31, 2018 • 8:35 am

I’m starting to realize that neologisms in popular culture often spread not because they are more pleasing to the ear or more expressive, but because the speaker sounds “cool”—is that word still used?—when using the latest argot. One I’ve seen all over the place lately, perhaps because of the success of the “Crazy Rich Asians” movie, is this:

rom-com (romantic comedy). It looks as if it rhymes, but pronounced properly it would be “roam-cahm”, not “rahm-cahm”.

This next one really ticks me off, as it’s used almost exclusively to show off (phrase-flaunting):

bae (significant other, boyfriend or girlfriend). If you ever catch me saying this, you have the right to shoot me.

Making “clever” abbreviations of the names of individuals or “power couples”, for example:

Queen Bey (for Beyoncé’; also “The Beyhive” for her followers). She’s not a “queen” anyway, as I find her music way overrated (yes, I’ve listened to it).
Tay Tay Taylor Swift, for God’s sake!
Bennifer  (for the couple Ben Affleck and Jennifer Lopez, now split)
Branjelina (for the couple Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie, also gone their separate ways)
TomKat (for the couple Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes, now also split)

Perhaps a double name is a curse on a relationship.

These grating double names for “supercouples” were not used in the past, but it’s now considered hip (is that word still used?) to use them. Here are a few that could have been used in an older Hollywood, but mercifully weren’t:

TayBur  Richard Burton and Elizabeth Taylor
SpenceKat Spencer Tracy and Katherine Hepburn
Miatra Mia Farrow and Frank Sinatra.

You get the idea.

Yes, I know language evolves, so you needn’t inform me of this. What I noted were words or phrases that irritate me. This seems to be a recurring thread, and I always enjoy what irritates the readers.

Readers’ wildlife photos

August 31, 2018 • 7:30 am

Reader Joe Dickinson recently returned from a trip to Australia and New Zealand, and we have a third batch of pictures, all from New Zealand (see here and here for the other two). His captions are indented:

Here are some wildlife photos from New Zealand, with a decided admixture of wonderful scenery.

First, spectacular Mt. Cook on the South Island catching the morning sun, then a ridge with glaciers a bit to the left (west?) as viewed from our hotel.

The Kea (Nestor notabilis) is famous (infamous?) for attacking things like weather stripping on autos (e.g., first photo below).

Here is one of the multitude of waterfalls in Milford Sound.  New Zealanders fall all over themselves in apologizing for calling that a sound when it is really a Fjord.  Then they are embarrassed that, in trying to make amends, they created Fiordland National Park with an “i” where it should have been “j”.

The New Zealand fur seal (Arctocephalus forsteri) is more closely related to our sea lions than to true seals, as evidenced by external ear flaps and the ability to tuck the rear flippers under the body and walk on all fours.

From the air, this is one of the striking “braided rivers” that flows down from the highlands across the Canterbury Plain on the South Island.

The black swan (Cygnus atratus) is a native Australia that was introduced and/or made the crossing on its own.

There are some wonderful geothermal areas around Rotorua on the North Island, much like a miniature Yellowstone.

We saw Kiwis only in a facility that rears chicks from eggs collected in the wild.  The idea is that if the single egg is removed early in the incubation period, a second one often is produced.  Wwere not allowed to photograph the live birds but here are some stuffed specimens of, I think, the little spotted kiwi (Apteryx owenii).

Here our guide is using a flashlight to backlight the “fishing lines” dangled by a larval glowworm (Arachnocampa luminosa) in the Aranui Cave system.  In this unique ecosystem, these fly larvae attract, trap and feed on insects whose own larvae and pupae are swept into the cave by a river that runs through it.  In the dark, the glowworms look like stars in a night sky.  I did not manage to get a decent photo of that effect, but you can see one (pale blue) in the upper left of this photo.

Not exactly wildlife, but this display, photographed at the airport, blew my mind.  The product, I presume, of  a hugely successful public relations program, manuka honey is widely credited with virtually miraculous health benefits.  FYI, the New Zealand dollar was at about 90% of the US dollar.

 

Friday: Hili dialogue

August 31, 2018 • 6:30 am

Well, we’ve reached the tail end of August: the 31st day of the month, year of our Ceiling Cat 2018, and it’s National Trail Mix Day. Before they had that stuff commercially available, I used to mix raisins, peanut M&Ms, and sunflower seeds to fuel me during field work. Read more about trail mix, or “gorp” at Wikipedia.

It’s a three-day weekend for most Americans, as September 3 (Monday) is Labor Day. But I always take that to mean that it’s a day of labor, so I’ll labor. Besides, there’s a duck to be fed. I learned yesterday to my sorrow that wild mallards live on average just 3 to 5 years, though a banded one was found to have lived 27 years. Maybe Honey will live that long. . .

On this day in 1864, Union General William T. Sherman began his assault on Atlanta, Georgia during his infamous “March on the Sea.” 24 years later, on August 31, 1888, Mary Ann Nichols, the first of Jack the Ripper’s confirmed victims (there were 5, and perhaps 11 in total), was found dead and mutilated. On this day in 1897, Thomas Edison patented the first movie projector, the “Kinetoscope”. Here’s an interior view:

On this day in 1920, the first radio news program was broadcast by station 8MK in Detroit (it’s now WWJ, and an all-news station that’s still on the air).

As you’ll remember, September 1, 1939, was the first day of World War II when Germany invaded Poland. On the day before, August 31, the Nazis created a fake Polish attack on the Gleiwitz radio station in Germany, giving the Nazis the excuse they needed to invade.  Wikipedia gives some information:

To make the attack seem more convincing, the Germans murdered Franciszek Honiok, a 43-year-old unmarried German Silesian Catholic farmer, known for sympathising with the Poles. He had been arrested the previous day by the Gestapo and dressed to look like a saboteur, then killed by lethal injection, given gunshot wounds. Honiok was left dead at the scene so that he appeared to have been killed while attacking the station. His corpse was then presented to the police and press as proof of the attack. Several prisoners from the Dachau concentration camp were drugged, shot dead on the site and their faces disfigured to make identification impossible. The Germans referred to them by the code phrase “Konserve” (canned goods). Some sources incorrectly refer to the incident as Operation Canned Goods. In an oral testimony at the trials, Erwin von Lahousen stated that his division of the Abwehr was one of two that were given the task of providing Polish Army uniforms, equipment and identification cards; he was later told by Wilhelm Canaris that people from concentration camps had been disguised in these uniforms and ordered to attack the radio stations.

On this day in 1957, the Federation of Malaya, now known as Malaysia, became independent from the UK. Five years later, Trinidad and Tobago became independent. On this day in 1997, Princess Diana and Dodi Fayed, along with their driver Henri Paul, died in a Paris car crash while fleeing paparazzi.  Finally, on this day in 2006, a copy of Munch’s painting “The Scream” that had been stolen from a museum two years earlier was recovered by Norwegian police.

Notables born on August 31 include Maria Montessori (1870), Alma Mahler (1879), Arthur Godfrey (1903), Daniel Schorr (1916), Alan Jay Lerner (1918), Buddy Hackett (1924), Edlridge Cleaver (1935), and Itzhak Perlman (1945). Those who died on this day include Matthias Grünewald (1528, created the greatest painting of all time), Georges Braque (1963), John Ford (1973), Sally Rand (1979), Dodi Fayed and Princess Diana (both 1997; see above), Lionel Hampton (2002) and David Frost (2013).

Rand was famous for her “fan dance,” in which she’d use ostrich-feather fans to reveal parts of her seemingly nude body. In reality, she wore a bodysuit. Here’s her famous fan dance:

Meanwhile, Hiroko Kubota sent to Dobrzyn some Japanese cat snacks and postcards showing her embroidery. You can see Hili getting one of the snacks below, and Leon will get some soon. Hili, of course, takes these special treats as her due.

A:  A parcel from Hiroko has arrived from Japan.
Hili: The love for me knows no borders.
In Polish:
Ja: Przyszła paczka od Hiroko z Japonii.
Hili: Miłość do mnie nie zna granic.

From reader Paul, an affronted owl:

https://twitter.com/BoringEnormous/status/1034577214082371585

Sent by reader Su, who points out what a whiny schmuck Milo Yiannopoulos has become:

From reader Barry, an affronted d*g:

Tweets from Grania. The first one shows two more owls, which don’t seem to be having a very good time:

Biology-dissing! But look at the size of that bear!!!

https://twitter.com/naturewasmetal/status/1005366485831708677

Tweets from Matthew. The first directs you to an article by Nick Cohen about “radical tourism.” I didn’t know that European leftists went to Venezuela to enjoy the political climate, but Nick Cohen rips that kind of tourism apart:

For their part, political tourists are stuck in a sexless marriage to a Britain that offers them no excitement. The proletariat has refused their entreaties to revolt. Their radical fantasies are never fulfilled. So they, too, scour the world. For years, the top radical tourist destination, the political equivalent of the Pattaya Beach brothel, has been Chavista Venezuela. Hollywood stars, the leaders of the British Labour party and Spanish “popular resistance”, and every half-baked pseudo-left intellectual from Noam Chomsky to John Pilger has engaged in a left orientalism as they wallowed in “the other’s” exotic delights.

As if we needed reminding, we’re the most gun-happy country of all First World Nations:

Matthew told me that I need to get this book:

I have no idea what this is about, but I’m putting it up to make myself look smart:

Matthew says the details of the dancer are in this YouTube video. Actually, she’s 74 years old.

Fun fact that will make you a hit at cocktail parties: Rossetti was infatuated with wombats:

 

Serena Williams: child vs. champion

August 30, 2018 • 2:30 pm

Reader Jon sent a one-minute video of Serena Williams as a little girl (already great at tennis) and at the U.S. Open. John said “this is good for a commercial”, but it’s made by Nike and looks just like a commercial. Regardless, it’s really good. Jon’s take:

Caution: might make you tear up. This is good for a commercial. Nike used home movies of a 9-year-old Serena Williams with her father, Richard Williams, encouraging her and telling her to imagine she is at the US Open, with jump cuts of modern footage of the US Open. Toward the end she celebrates on court when she spots her father cheering in the stands. Her father was such a gentle, caring coach. To date, I think she’s won the US Open six times.

Honey’s back again!

August 30, 2018 • 1:00 pm

Well, after a day’s absence, my beloved mallard hen Honey returned to Botany Pond (sans her swain James Pond) this morning. I went out to the pond, not whistling because I didn’t see her. I stood by the pond for a while and saw no duck anywhere, and then, as if out of nowhere, a small feathered creature came steaming towards me. Honey had returned!

She’s on a one-day-on-one-day-gone schedule, and I have no idea where she goes. But I’m pretty sure she returns for food, as she needs to fuel up soon for her big migration.

This is when I saw her:

She looked in good nick, and ate a huge meal (and she just did at lunch, too). She was starving.  As I said, I don’t know where she goes, but Anna and I are happy to have her back for at least a day longer.

I’ve never seen her so hungry, and I wonder what this is about. Here she is nomming mealworms. Note that her wing feathers are fully grown, and the right wing is still crossed over the left. I suppose that asymmetry is permanent.

The turtles compete with her for the mealworms, but she’s a lot faster than they are.

Here’s a 2:40 video of Honey doing her postprandial ablutions. As usual, she’s standing on the ring of the cement “bathtub.” I don’t know what this repeated head-ducking is all about; maybe that’s why they call them “ducks”! Note that  at 0:37 she removes a down feather from her breast (I suppose she’s still molting), and she wags her little tail continuously. There’s a big wing flap at 2:09.

I have more photos of her from this afternoon, but will save them for later, as I never know when will be the last time I see her this year.